Setting Intentions: Gosia Narula of Mighty Beads

“Energy flows where intention goes.” – Author Unknown

A couple weeks ago, Nicole Linn helped me clear the negative energy from my home. After she showed all of us how to successfully smudge our spaces, she was kind enough to do a home clearing for me. (I welcome any opportunity to get rid of the “junk” and bring more positivity into my life! Who wouldn’t?) After she performed the clearing, she mentioned that GREEN and GOLD stood out to her, and that I should bring these colors into my life and my home as often as possible.

You know how I don’t like forcing things and opt to keep myself open to the “magic” of life unfolding naturally? Buckle up for this one …

Not long after Nicole’s clearing, I bumped into Gosia Narula at our town’s recycling center. (We met several months ago during my visit to Araya Rebirth, where she works as an aesthetician.) Oddly enough, a few days prior, I had been scrolling through her business’s Instagram page, admiring her beautiful pieces and thinking to myself that I’d love to collaborate with her in some way. When I saw her, she hugged me and told me she wanted to make me a Mighty Beads bracelet. I got chills down my spine. I immediately knew what I needed my bracelet to incorporate … the colors green and gold.

So, what are Mighty Beads?

It was a dream of hers for as long as she can remember that finally came to fruition about one year ago; Gosia began making beautiful custom-made (and ready-made) malas, necklaces and bracelets out of semi-precious stones. (I know right now my mom is reading and asking, “What the heck is a mala?” Similar to rosary beads, a mala, or Buddhist prayer beads, are a tool used to count the number of times a mantra is recited, breaths while meditating, etc.) The timing was finally right for Gosia and Mighty Beads was born.

The semi-precious stones in her pieces come from the earth. Holding them close to your body is believed by many to promote emotional, physical and spiritual healing. They are said to interact with your energy field, or chakra. Gosia explains, “Vibes and waves affect our energy. Just like a microwave or Wi-Fi interferes with our energy, crystals affect our energy in a positive way.” Some reading may have doubts … I personally believe in the power of positive thinking and visualizing your intentions.

Speaking of intentions … Gosia asked me for mine. (Perhaps not so) ironically, my intentions matched up to the colors green and gold, and she incorporated them into my bracelet beautifully.

in·ten·tion

inˈten(t)SH(ə)n/ 

noun

  1. a thing intended; an aim or plan.

“she was full of good intentions”

Here’s the bracelet that Gosia made for me. I’ve had it for a little over a week now and I’ve worn it every single day. Isn’t it so beautiful? It makes me happy.

These are the stones that Gosia used, along with what they’re said to do:

Moss Agate – A stone of wealth, attracts abundance. Improves self-esteem and strengthens positive personality traits. Encourages expanding one’s personal space and growth.

Jade – Attracts good luck, friendships and prosperity.

Green Aventurine – Know as the luckiest stone, invites good luck and prosperity for one’s life. It is a great comforter and the heart healer. Protects one’s energy.

Sunstone – A joyful stone. It restores the enjoyment of life, good nature and provides a sense of abundance.

Gosia Narula

Gosia, a Bergen County mom of two young children, loves witnessing her pieces come together, and feels such joy watching others wear the jewelry, knowing that they’ll experience good things from them. She says it “melts (her) heart.” Gosia has made custom pieces for suicide survivors, cancer fighters, those seeking strength and success … the possibilities are endless

To view more of Gosia’s pieces or to place a custom order, visit her website: http://www.mightybeads.com. You can also follow Mighty Beads on Instagram: @mightybeadshop.

ENTER TO WIN A CUSTOM-MADE MIGHTY BEADS BRACELET! 

What are your intentions for your life at this moment? Visit my Instagram page and enter to win a Mighty Beads bracelet for yourself or someone you have good intentions for. If you don’t have Instagram, feel free to drop your comments below and follow Stylish Mama AND Mighty Beads on Facebook!

Contest ends on Sunday, October 14, 2018 at midnight EST. One winner will be randomly chosen and notified.

  

Thanks for reading! Head back to the Stylish Mama site for more!

Liza XO

P.S. One of my favorite things about running my Instagram page and writing my blog is connecting people. This time, naturally, I’ve connected Nicole Linn and Gosia Narula … some pretty cool things are brewing with this perfect duo! Keep your eyes and ears open for details … I’ll keep you in the loop, of course!

P.S. Almost forgot to mention … you can pick up ready-made Mighty Beads at Araya Rebirth in Ridgewood!

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5 Things I Know to be True at 40

Turning forty was big for me. In all honesty, despite my positive outlook on life, I kind of dreaded it. At a dinner celebration with my girlfriends, my friend Melanie said, “I feel like we’ve been talking about you turning 40 for years now,” and she was right. I have been “almost 40” since I turned 31 … technically making me “almost 50” now. I think I feel this way because there’s just so much that I want to do and so much that I want to see. Time seems to be racing by.

All photos: @photographybycaranj

But I’m fully aware that I can’t control the future, much like I can’t control the past. I talk about it all the time, but even I need a reminder here and there that all we can control – and all that’s worth our thoughts – is what’s happening right now, in this very moment. This is the reality, but there’s still the dreamer in me that wonders for all of us …

If you could control your past, would you? If you could go back and change an event or action you took in your previous days in some way, what would it be?

I’ve been playing around with the idea for this blog in my head for quite some time now. A few months ago, I asked my Instagram followers for two words that they’d whisper to their younger selves if they could go back in time. Here are some of the responses that were shared with me (I’d love to hear yours in the comments):

• Be you
• Take risks
• Be patient
• Don’t rush
• Be strong
• Calm down
• Start exercising
• Always sparkle
• Don’t worry
• Enjoy it
• Keep trying
• Be confident
• Have courage
• Be grateful
• Don’t quit
• Keep smiling
• Have faith
• Act now
• Be kind
• Love yourself
• Never settle
• Go BIG!

I certainly wouldn’t take back anything … and I mean ANYTHING … that life has handed me. Even when I think back to moments in my life that make me cringe a little still, they’ve made me who I am. All of the happy moments, the sad moments, the pain, the mistakes … I wouldn’t be who I am today if they didn’t all occur, and I am truly grateful for all of it. Because of each event, I am stronger, but gentler. I am braver, but cautious. I know my worth and I am aware that all others are worthy of the same compassion. We all are on our own individual journeys, with experiences unique to us that make us the people we are in this very moment.

For this reason, I wouldn’t go back and whisper anything to myself that would necessarily alter my past, but I would certainly love to enhance my experiences thus far. This is what I would whisper to my younger self, following my rule of two:

1. Create happiness. This one is first for a reason … it’s the most important to me. For so long, I rushed through the present moment and looked for the next “big” events in life to complete me. I felt I needed to speed off to college, get married, get pregnant … I thought that if I had all of those things, I would be happy. Of course, these things do make me happy, but they don’t complete me. I know now that I am the only person who can make myself happy; I am THE CAKE. I wake up daily and make the decision that I’m going to be happy. All of the other things … my kids, my relationships, vacations, etc. … these things are all just icing on the cake that I baked myself. When you are aware of the fact that you are responsible for your own happiness, it’s easier to let go of things and people that aren’t meant for you. Be the cake; the sweet foundation for all good things to come.

2. Take chances. I’ve had two close calls with death; one when I was 26 and another when I was 33. These experiences were two of the greatest gifts I could have ever received. Ever since, I take advantage of every experience that life puts in front of me that speaks to me, even if it’s just a little bit. I’m always “winging it”. Worst-case scenario, I don’t enjoy it and I don’t continue to pursue it. I can guarantee that I will learn and grow from it though. When making a decision, I always ask myself: which would I more likely regret down the road – having tried or not having tried? I don’t ever want to look back with regret. I don’t ever want to say that I wish I had done something but I was too scared to try, or that I was worried about what other people would think. Follow your heart and have confidence that what is meant for you will fall into place when it’s time. All of the worrisome chatter in your mind has no validity.

3. Be honest. For so many years, I was so concerned about other people’s feelings that I wouldn’t always tell the truth; I would tell people what I thought they wanted to hear. Through experience, I’ve learned that it’s so much easier on myself – and others – being straightforward from the get-go. If someone asks me if I want to do something that I don’t want to do, I simply say “no.” It’s liberating and refreshing for all involved, and guess what, the world doesn’t end! I now gravitate toward honest people who speak their minds, but in a kind way, of course. Tell me I’m not being rational. Tell me I look awful in that dress.  Honesty will help me grow as a person.

4. Take shortcuts. I went back and forth between naming this one “take shortcuts” or “f*@! Pinterest.” I enjoy pinning things that I’ll most likely never make just like the rest of you, but I’m done with the pressure to do everything perfectly. I don’t know a single person who doesn’t enjoy a good old Funfetti cake out of the box. I believe it is possible to “do it all” … you just can’t do it all and give EVERYTHING all of your heart and your best efforts. Pick what you really love and run full speed ahead with that. It’s ok to take shortcuts with the rest. Order a pizza, buy an already made cake, and enjoy the time with your company. The time is what matters.

I worked so hard on this cake. Here I am taking it out of the oven. 😉 Photo: @photographybycaranj

5. Don’t expect. This is the toughest one for me; it’s something I still struggle with daily, but I’ll get there. (When you have a big heart and would do just about anything for people, this is a rough one to fully embrace.) I try to remind myself to not take things personally. When someone doesn’t do what you wish they would do, it most likely has nothing to do with you in the first place. Again, we are all on our own unique path.

We can wish to go back and give ourselves some tips to enhance our previous years, but clearly, we can’t. Would we have really understood these words whispered in our ears then anyway? Perhaps it took us all of the growing experiences to truly understand the value of our own advice. Way back when, they would have just been words.

We can’t change what we have experienced already, but what we can do is take these words that we wish we could tell ourselves then, and instead remind ourselves of this advice right now, and from hereon out. IT’S NEVER TOO LATE TO BE WHO YOU HAVE ALWAYS WANTED TO BE.

You’ve got one shot at this life – shamelessly dive in!

If you could whisper two words to yourself … not then … but right now … what would they be? What’s stopping you from heeding your own advice? Write those words down on a post-it note and hang it on your refrigerator, your mirror, or the dashboard of your car. We can’t alter the past, but we can make the absolute best of every remaining day.

Liza XO

P.S. I’d love to hear what your two words are. Please share them in the comments!

P.P.S. Aren’t these photos great?! Once again, they were taken by the EXTREMELY creative and talented (and super fun to hang with), Cara Polizzi. We always have lots of laughs together! Check her out on Instagram, too: @photographybycaranj.

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Make Happiness Your Habit: Teeth Whitening Review

If I had a dollar for every time someone has said to me, “You’re always smiling,” I wouldn’t be writing this blog right now. Well, maybe I would be since it’s a message I believe is worth spreading, but I’d certainly be writing it on a beach, surrounded by palm trees, probably while sipping some Mai Tais.

It’s quite true … it’s hard to catch me without a smile, and I’m sure it may appear to some who don’t know me too well that my life is always carefree. However, my life isn’t carefree by any means. I’ve been through some things, just like most, that would most likely make your head spin. I have good days and I have bad moments. Despite these moments, I choose happiness over sadness and anger; it’s a much more constructive way to utilize my energy. HAPPINESS HAS BECOME A HABIT FOR ME.

It’s not always easy for me to put a smile on, but whenever I don’t feel like grinning, I remind myself of a few things:

  1. There is so much to be thankful for. If you’re reading this, you are alive. You have your sight. For crying out loud, you have access to the Internet! (By the way, did you know that only 51% of the planet has Internet access?) Be thankful. Direct your focus to the positives in your life, the big and the small.
  2. No matter what I’m going through, there’s someone out there who wishes they had my issues instead of theirs. No matter how bad things seem at the moment, it could be worse.
  3. Whatever life hands me, whether it’s good or bad, is shaping me into who I’m meant to be. Embrace everything that you have been dealt … and be grateful for it.
  4. Forcing a smile upon your face is an instant mood booster for those around you … and for yourself, too. Try smiling at a stranger and I guarantee that you will instantly feel a boost in your mood, and it will be almost impossible for the other person to not smile back. Energies are contagious. Spread good energy.
  5. All that matters is this very moment. Right now. You can’t control what’s already happened and worrying about something that hasn’t even happened – and probably won’t – is totally useless.

All of these points help me maintain myself on the inside, and I believe in maintaining myself on the outside, too. Just like you aim to maintain your weight and your hair color, you should also take care of your teeth before they become too difficult to fix. Being a person who smiles quite often, maintaining a bright smile is something that’s important to me. My teeth were already pretty white before starting Smile Brilliant, but thanks to the multiple cups of coffee I require to function as a 40 year-old mom of 3, they weren’t as white as they could have been.

I’ve tried other whitening kits in the past, which worked, but left my sensitive teeth and gums feeling sore. The strips I’ve tried have been so thin and sticky, and easily slid off, which was uncomfortable and made it difficult to talk while whitening. Smile Brilliant, developed by dental professionals, is quite unique and appealing for several reasons: their whitening trays are comfortable and custom fit to your mouth, and the company offers a special follow-up “desensitizing gel.” Prior to writing this blog, I’ve used the whitening gel and desensitizing gel five times; my smile is even brighter and my teeth and gums aren’t sore AT ALL. Smile Brilliant’s trays also allow you to whiten ALL of your teeth, not just the ones in the front. Here’s how it all works …

The Process: 

The starter kit that Smile Brilliant sent to me consisted of materials for me to create molds of my upper and lower teeth. The pastes were incredibly simple to mix and apply; it couldn’t have been easier to do. I popped the molds I made into the envelope they provided and mailed them back to Smile Brilliant. My molds were used to create lightweight trays that fit my mouth PERFECTLY. I then used the whitening and desensitizing gels according to the directions for five nights. I left the whitening gel on for 45 minutes and then the desensitizing gel for 15-20 minutes.

The Results: 

After 5 applications, I’m happy to report that my teeth are brilliantly white and the whole process was easy and painless. It’s not easy for me to carve out time for myself during the day; it was so simple to slide the trays into my mouth after I got the kids into bed, and then whitened while I folded laundry or did some work on my computer.

I’d recommend Smile Brilliant to anyone with a busy lifestyle who’s serious about his or her smiling game; men and women who get that there’s (almost) always a reason to smile. You may have to dig deep sometimes, but choosing happiness is always worth the effort. Once you get the hang of it, leaning towards a life filled with chosen happiness becomes more of a habit. MAKE HAPPINESS YOUR HABIT. 

Liza XO

P.S. I HAVE EXCITING NEWS FOR THOSE WHO WANT TO GIVE WHITENING A TRY! The kind people of Smile Brilliant are giving away a T-3 SENSITIVE TEETH WHITENING SYSTEM (value of $149) to 1 lucky Stylish Mama follower! To enter, CLICK HERE.

For bonus entries, make sure you’re following me on my social media outlets! On Instagram and Facebook, be sure to “like” my posts and tag some friends! If you follow me on Twitter, re-tweet my post for extra brownie points. GOOD LUCK! 

My Before & After Smiles

** Contest closes on April 25, 2018 and is open to residents of the USA, UK, Australia, and Canada. The winner will be selected by Smile Brilliant. 

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Tooth Whitening Gel

What “Drives” Your Happiness …

About a year ago, I was headed to a dermatologist appointment. I was running late, as usual, and cursing out every single person in front of me that was making me even later. I felt myself getting caught up in what I see quite often on other people’s faces, especially in this overly-congested area where everyone seems to always be in a rush; a mix of a little frustration and some self-importance.

Anyhow, I was slowly inching toward a light I needed to get through desperately (gag) when I spotted a woman trying to make a left-hand turn out of a parking lot. I may have appeared a little annoyed, but nonetheless, I paused and gave her enough room to let her make the turn. She made eye contact with me, waved and flashed me a huge smile. It certainly wasn’t the first time I’ve stopped to let someone make a turn, but something made me pause to focus on what I was feeling at that very moment.

I instantly felt better; I was relieved of the frustration that was slowly building up inside of me. It was then that I realized that – even though my gesture was so small, and her gesture in return was so simple – that’s all it took for me to forget about what was plaguing me at the moment. My own happiness came from making someone else happy. I realized then that being 5 minutes late for an appointment where I was just going to sit in the waiting room for 30 minutes anyway just didn’t matter. What does matter? Pausing to be kind.

If helping someone out in such a minor way, and in turn feeling appreciated for it, can make such a big impact on your mood, imagine what an even bigger gesture of kindness can do for all of us. We are all constantly chasing happiness in the form of money, homes and cars, but what if happiness is found simply in just being kind to and considerate of others? Everyone today is so focused on finding their own happiness in material things, they’re losing sight of what truly matters. Your own happiness has nothing to do with making yourself happy.

If you’re still reading this, promise me something: the next time you’re feeling crummy, test this little theory out. During this “season of giving,” and throughout the rest of the coming year, don’t just focus on the presents. BE PRESENT.

Give a gift to yourself by pausing to let someone else make that left-hand turn. Smile at a stranger when you’re walking past them on the street. Find your passion and make other people’s lives better with it. Take the time to express your appreciation for the kind gestures that others extend toward you. Whether it’s a big way or a small way that you’re impacting the happiness of others, run with it – and enjoy every minute.

Happy Holidays!

L XO

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3 Words That Will Totally Change Your Mindset

A few days ago, I was in a local boutique chatting with the owner and a rep from Gorjana. The jewelry company has a new line coming out with beautiful pieces that can be personalized. Naturally, we started tossing around ideas of what we would engrave onto a bracelet or a necklace, if given the opportunity. After listening to some sentimental suggestions (and a few entertaining wisecracks), I shared 3 tiny words with the ladies that drastically altered my mindset for the better not too long ago … and would fit perfectly onto a piece of jewelry …

I get to.

I can’t quite recall where I initially heard this simple yet powerful message; undoubtedly it was in a blog or an article somewhere on some social media outlet. (I can’t remember what I had for breakfast, so expecting me to name the source is asking WAY too much.) While it doesn’t really matter where I heard it, what does matter is that those 3 little words had a huge impact on how I look at my life on a daily basis … and this message is certainly worth sharing.

I wrote “I get to …” on a post-it note and hung it on our refrigerator for the times when I need a reminder. Here it is:

How does it work? Simply, I aim to replace the words “I have to” with “I get to”. Swapping out “have” with “get” can completely change your perspective on (almost) everything. Just watch …

I HAVE TO go to the grocery store. / I GET TO go to the grocery store.

I HAVE TO pick the kids up from school. / I GET TO pick the kids up from school.

I HAVE TO go to work. / I GET TO go to work.

It’s all about perspective. Simply looking at things that you “have” to do as an opportunity – a blessing even – as opposed to a burden, is life-changing. There are people out there who wish they could go grocery shopping. There are people who wish they had a job – yes, even your job – or wish they had children to pick up from school. YOU ARE SO BLESSED. Embrace the little things.

In fact, I caught myself just this morning staring at a pile of laundry that needed to be washed thinking, “UGH! I have to do laundry.” I glanced at my post-it note, quickly changed that thought to “I get to do laundry,” and started washing and whistling. Just kidding … I absolutely realize that I’m so fortunate to have a washer and a dryer, but I’m seriously beyond sick of laundry. How the hell is it possible that 3 little people can dirty that many articles of clothing in such a short period of time?! And does my husband throw everything he brushes up against into the hamper?! Ok – so it doesn’t work for laundry with me (I tried. I really, really tried.), but swapping out that one word sure changed the MAJORITY of my thinking on a daily basis.  😉

I’m so glad that I GOT TO write this blog tonight … and I hope it inspires you to look at life a little differently.

XO, L

P.S. I’ve spied Gorjana pieces locally at Kristin Dahl Ladies Boutique (Midland Park), Bloomingdales and Nordstrom. Follow me on Instagram (@stylishmama) to see a few of my favorites!

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